Holding Back Help
August 10, 2009
Last night someone told me that they were laid off from work. This person is close to me, closer then most people you ever deal with. I however am faced with a dilemma. I know that if I walk into my boss’s office this morning I can get the person a temporary job that will tide them over until they find something more permanent. Its not a glamorous job but it will do the trick.
Here is my problem… I do not trust them to act mature enough to not jeopardize my position. So I cannot go and get them the temporary job. I know that for a week or two they would be on their best behavior. But then they would start doing the things that led to losing their last job. Joking around, not taking their job seriously and generally not being an employee that is grateful for the fact that they have a job.
It is sad to me that I cannot reach out and help. I am disappointed and feel a terrible tug inside myself that I feel this way. But in the end your track record speaks so loudly that this is all people will listen to when times get rough. You might have changed overnight… but your past life screams out before you regardless of your current words.
Take stock of your reputation and put in the work now to fix it for the future when you truly need someone to reach out and hold you up.
Christina Helwig
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March 9, 2009
Why I Hired A Life Coach To Help Me Fight The Recession And Expand My Business
December 25, 2008
What Happened
When we first met my coach took the time to get to know me. She did not ask me what I wanted to accomplish or what my goals were. I thought this was a little surprising at first but I now understand why she did it. Instead of rushing in to save the day, she wanted to understand what was holding me back in life. By understanding what my struggle points were, she could better craft a plan to help me move forward.
My Search For “The One”
It took me awhile to find a life coach that I clicked with. One of the biggest criteria for me was personal responsibility. Would the coach call me back when they said they would? Would the coach follow up on a led that I gave them telling them that I wanted to work with them? And most importantly were these coaches demonstrating in their own life the type of results I wanted? Were they happy, healthy, wealthy, were they genuinely nice people and lastly did they have great relationships in their lives?
I had also made the decision that I personally wanted to work with a woman coach because women have unique concerns that a male coach might not always take seriously or fully understand. This is in no way intended to disparage a male coach, it was just a personal preference I had at this time in my life. I have had male coaches before and they were wonderful mentors.
The “Aha Moment”
After contacting a few women life coaches that met my criteria I was getting no where with finding the coach I wanted to work with. I put the thought in the back of my mind and continued working on my different projects and goals. Then on a cruise in the Caribbean I had the good fortune to run into a friend / acquaintance that did life coaching. I was a little nervous but I asked her at dinner if she would coach me and she to my delight said yes. Earlier that week I had watched her interact with people and more importantly observed how she connected with me personally. She was warm, gracious and had built a life for herself that I wanted to emulate. She was someone I could look up to and someone I wanted to work with deeply.
The Coaching Calls
Her coaching started off at my pace and was not a preset agenda she led all her clients through. It was truly personalized and was built for me and for what I wanted. She was also accessible and responded to my questions and concerns quickly. I did not have to hunt her down and felt like I was her only client. The sessions completely focussed on me and what I wanted.
Making The Decision To Hire a Coach
You have to first understand where you are and how you got there before you can really rocket yourself to success. My coach helped me see things about myself that I did not recognize. Now don’t get me wrong, I am no stranger to personal development and self-improvement materials. I am an avid reader and I personally coach people to help them reach their goals. Because of this I understand that to really get great results, I had to practice what I preach and get myself a formal life coach.
You should really sit down and think about whether or not you are hitting the goals that you set for yourself. And more importantly are you merely setting goals you think you can achieve? Your goals should be a stretch, something to reach for and challenge yourself with. Not something that you can clearly see yourself achieving. Your goals have to scare you a little bit and make you a tad nervous, otherwise you are not thinking big enough.
Trade Your Life For Something Big
Remember that you are trading your life for the goals that you set for yourself. Each day you give up should be worth it. When you look back at your life you want to see great accomplishments and a truly fulfilled life, not a life that was lived in the shadows or played it safe.
Think of the type of life your really want to lead and look at how you are living now. Do you think that your current habits, actions and thoughts are congruent with what you want to create in your life? What can you do to bring those three things into alignment.
Set aside a few minutes each day to work on and learn about how you can reach your goals. Once you start to change your habits, actions and thoughts, your whole life will change and you will be able to create the wealth your deserve in your life.
Take a look at this web-site http://CoachingByCoral.com to learn more how a life coach can help you achieve your goals. Coral is my personal life coach and a fantastic resource for anyone looking to take quantum leaps in their life and business. I wish you much success, seize your goals and live your dreams.
Christina Helwig is an attorney and Vice-President of Wealth Expressions, Inc. She focuses on helping people learn more about themselves to improve all aspects of their lives.