Put On Some Make-Up
December 9, 2009
Let me ask you a question. How much sex are you and your partner having? Does he still try to sweep you off your feet or are you living with him like a roommate with occasional benefits? Some people might be offended by this but the reason is your fault. The people who are the most offended typically have let themselves go the most. So toughen up chickie.
I had a conversation recently with one of my good friends who is close to 40 and looks like a Chilean supermodel. She has a gorgeous body, beautiful hair and always is stunning. But my friend works hard at it. In high school she was overweight and a guy broke up with her because of it. She decided that she never wanted to feel that again so she works out every single day; even if its just a walk. Her entire family of female relatives are well over 200 pounds. But she is a size 4. She eats clean, simple healthy food every day and when she does indulge she eats small portions. I have watched her habits the entire time we have been friends. They don’t change. She recently had a baby and she was the most fit and trim pregnant woman I have ever seen. She continued to do her make-up and take care of herself.
A funny thing happens to us women when we snag a man. We stop trying to impress him and decide that he should just love us for who we are. But who are YOU? Are you saying that you are an overweight person, who doesn’t care about their appearance and can’t take the time to put on something other than sweats? Who are you?
I think the truth is that you are a sexy dynamic woman who has not paid enough attention to herself lately. You’d rather blame genetics or your age for the increased weight. But really think about this. You got to where you are because one day you gave up. If you want your car to run smoothly you have to maintain it. Same thing with your body and your relationship.
We think men are supposed to act like the guys in soap operas but we fail to recognize that men would act that way if we acted like the women in the soap operas. If we surprised our husbands in little teddys with champagne and always looked drop dead gorgeous they would kiss us up against a wall and make us swoon on our feet all the time.
While it might sound like I am advocating that you do this to get your man interested in you again, I’m not. I am advocating that you take care of yourself for you. You matter and you should treat yourself with enough respect that you care enough to put on make-up and workout everyday.
I stopped caring about myself for a long time and my results showed it. I have been working to find that deep self love again and am finally entering a space in my life where I feel happy with myself. That happiness has to come from within before it shows on the outside. Your excess weight is a symptom of something deeper going on in your brain. Without unraveling that cord you will stay stuck.
If you need help starting to put your life back together or getting yourself healthy let me know. I know its hard. But without daily effort and caring enough about yourself to “put on some make-up” you’ll stay stuck and miserable. Time moves whether you want it to or not and all you’ll have are empty photo albums and a sense of loss that you did not take action sooner.
Christina Helwig
Put On Your Own Oxygen Mask First
November 3, 2009
I have what we’ll call a delicate family situation right now. For the last three plus years I have been jumping in and taking care of all their concerns without any regard to how my choices were going to stack up against me. I was so busy saving them, that I stopped caring about myself in the process. Now I have realized the error of my ways and I am pulling back my help.
You see… people need consequences so that they understand what their actions mean. If you constantly rush in and save a person they will never stand up for themselves. They will be dis-empowered and unable to care for themselves. My need to save them transitioned from a little sting to a massive tsunami in my life. You feel this constant guilt and social duty to help your family. Its incredibly difficult to step back and say no.
Its only because I have finally had my “consequences” hit me hard that I have started reaching for my oxygen mask. I have a big hurdle to jump over now to get myself back on track after I let this situation develop. I know that I am RESPONSIBLE for letting myself not take care of me first. You will never be happy if you live for others and not for yourself. You come first… period. Once you are taken care of… you can CHOOSE to help others. Let go of social stigma and feelings of guilt or they will run you into the ground.
A simple question to ask yourself is: if the situation was reversed… would there be anyone there to save me? If the answer is no, its time to blow back up your life raft and let them worry about theirs all by themselves.
SELF-CONFIDENCE FORMULA [By Napoleon Hill]
April 24, 2009
First. I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my Definite Purpose in life, therefore, I DEMAND of myself persistent, continuous action toward its attainment, and I here and now promise to render such action.
Second. I realize the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward, physical action, and gradually transform themselves into physical reality, therefore, I will concentrate my thoughts for thirty minutes daily, upon the task of thinking of the person I intend to become, thereby creating in my mind a clear mental picture of that person.
Third. I know through the principle of auto-suggestion, any desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of attaining the object back of it, therefore, I will devote ten minutes daily to demanding of myself the development of SELF-CONFIDENCE.
Fourth. I have clearly written down a description of my DEFINITE CHIEF AIM in life, and I will never stop trying, until I shall have developed sufficient self-confidence for its attainment.
Fifth. I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure, unless built upon truth and justice, therefore, I will engage in no transaction which does not benefit all whom it affects. I will succeed by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use, and the cooperation of other people. I will induce others to serve me, because of my willingness to serve others. I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, and cynicism, by developing love for all humanity, because I know that a negative attitude toward others can never bring me success. I will cause others to believe in me, because I will believe in them, and in myself.
I will sign my name to this formula, commit it to memory, and repeat it aloud once a day, with full FAITH that it will gradually influence my THOUGHTS and ACTIONS so that I will become a self-reliant, and successful person.
[If you make a commitment to yourself to read this daily it will do wonders for you.]
Christina Helwig
Empathy
April 21, 2009
I was able to see Tony Alessandra live in Vegas in March. He was great and is one of the faculty members of ILG. This is just one example of the many great videos this service offers.
Christina Helwig
www.GlobalSuccessILG.com
What Does It Mean To Be Rich?
April 8, 2009
I used to think that being rich meant that you had millions of dollars, a fancy car, a big house and a myriad of other niceties in your life. Now however, I am not so sure. To me being rich means that you are debt free and you have more than enough to cover your needs and reasonable wants. It also means having the resources to help the people in your life you care about.
What this really comes down to is monthly cash flow. Are you on a whole taking in more than you spend and do you have reserves should an big emergency arise? If I answer this question for myself the answer is an emphatic no. With that I know I have some work to do. First I have to figure out what I need to live. Then I need to calculate what I would need to live the way I want to live.
My goal then becomes closing that gap. You see when you put up a goal of I want to be a “millionaire” you really are saying “I want to live like a millionaire.” What we often do not understand is that even some millionaires are deeply in debt and are themselves living paycheck to paycheck. If your wealth is not long lasting why bother. You want to maintain that lifestyle for the long-run, not for a few short intense years.
Additionally by focusing on the monthly gap you need to bridge, the goal seems much more reasonable to your brain. You can mentally process it and your subconscious mind will start to accept the goal as possible. Its when we think something is possible that things start to happen.
Your next step in this process is to sit down and brainstorm all the different ways you can bridge your gap. Really get creative. Its the simple changes and ideas that make the greatest impact. Then take action on the items you brainstormed. If one doesn’t work then try another until it sticks.
Without action you will stay in the same position you are currently in or be in a worse one, a year from now. This I can promise you. Nothing happens without action. Without it you are merely a dreamer. So get moving and make yourself rich, its only a tiny gap.
Christina Helwig
www.GlobalSuccessILG.com
The Skill Of Choosing
April 3, 2009
Here is a great video from Trapper Woods a faculty member of iLearningGlobal. I try to watch a video every morning to perk up my day and get myself into the right mindset. Trapper has been one of my favorites. His videos on time and task management are priceless.
To learn more about ILG visit: www.GlobalSuccessILG.com
Christina Helwig
Change Your World
March 17, 2009
You cannot change the world,
But you can present the world with one improved person -
Yourself.
You can go to work on yourself to make yourself
Into the kind of person you admire and respect.
You can become a role model and set a standard for others.
You can control and discipline yourself to resist acting
Or speaking in a negative way
Toward anyone for any reason.
You can insist upon always doing things the loving way,
Rather than the hurtful way.
By doing these things each day,
You can continue on your journey
Toward becoming an exceptional human being.
by: Brian Tracy
To view videos from Brian Tracy visit: www.GlobalSuccessILG.com
Set Physical Challenges
March 10, 2009
When most people think of setting goals they focus on increasing income or buying some material possession. Setting a goal that focuses on a physical challenge can be just as rewarding. Indeed these types of goals can give you a huge mental boost because they do not focus on things that you cannot control. Your body is under your dominion. Now I am not talking about setting a goal related to releasing weight. When I talk about a physical goal I mean something like hiking up a mountain, competing in a race, swimming a certain number of miles or any other physical challenge you can think of.
You can also combine the goal with raising money for a charity. The Walk for the Cure even gives you a solid training program and support throughout your training period. Each portion of your physical goal can be broken down into measurable increments. Take a look at my last post on Conquering Half Dome for my own challenge I completed.
The first place you should start is picking a challenge. Then take an assessment of where your fitness level currently is. Can you hike 4 miles without getting too sore or tired or can you only do one? Then take your calendar and build a plan from now until the date of your event. Each week add a little more to your schedule. The last few weekends before I hiked half dome I was hiking 12+ miles each weekend to prepare for the 17 mile hike. Each week you will get stronger and faster. We started to blast through the 12 miles faster and faster. A full day ordeal starting taking a little over a half day to complete and I did not feel horrible at the end, I felt invigorated. Within a short amount of time you will start to marvel at the progress you’ve made and your self confidence levels will skyrocket.
Christina Helwig
www.GlobalSuccessILG.com
Daily Affirmation Video
March 9, 2009
Accepting Failure & Moving On
February 28, 2009
Last year I tried to start a business. It was one that I was very familiar with. I had worked in the field for over six years and I was a rockstar in it. I formed a collection agency business that focused on construction companies solely. That was going to be my niche. My brother had a tile business and had to close shop when a large customer refused to pay him. I thought the model was great. We ramped up and spent money to advertise. We invested countless hours in calling and working on the business. At night you could find me adding mailing labels to postcards etc.
By all appearances I thought the business would be great. I knew however in the back of my mind that there was a problem with my model. Collections is fundamentally a negative experience. I would be exposing myself and more importantly my employees to a negative interaction with another human being. If you have read my posts before you know that negativity is just not in my life sphere.
After about 6 months and countless dollars spent I pulled the plug and told the people involved that we needed to circle the wagons and regroup. They were upset and wanted to continue to chase something that was just not working. I told them that sometimes we have to let go of something to allow a better opportunity to come to us. About 5 months later a better one did and I am so happy. The business is based on helping people better themselves and realize their dreams. It is right in alignment with my purpose and is a hobby / business for me. It is not a chore. The model has a direct one to one pay ratio and is not dependent on getting unhappy people to pay debts they don’t want to pay in the first place.
I view the first business as a stepping stone and a pathway to something better. There are probably many things that you can look back on in your life that had the same characteristics. The more important thing for you to do right now is evaluate whether your current projects and plans are really working. Can they be redone? Or are you simply chasing the end of a rainbow out of pride? If its the later please stop, circle your wagons and keep your eyes and heart open for a better opportunity. It will come in time.
Christina Helwig
www.GlobalSuccessILG.com