Put On Some Make-Up
December 9, 2009
Let me ask you a question. How much sex are you and your partner having? Does he still try to sweep you off your feet or are you living with him like a roommate with occasional benefits? Some people might be offended by this but the reason is your fault. The people who are the most offended typically have let themselves go the most. So toughen up chickie.
I had a conversation recently with one of my good friends who is close to 40 and looks like a Chilean supermodel. She has a gorgeous body, beautiful hair and always is stunning. But my friend works hard at it. In high school she was overweight and a guy broke up with her because of it. She decided that she never wanted to feel that again so she works out every single day; even if its just a walk. Her entire family of female relatives are well over 200 pounds. But she is a size 4. She eats clean, simple healthy food every day and when she does indulge she eats small portions. I have watched her habits the entire time we have been friends. They don’t change. She recently had a baby and she was the most fit and trim pregnant woman I have ever seen. She continued to do her make-up and take care of herself.
A funny thing happens to us women when we snag a man. We stop trying to impress him and decide that he should just love us for who we are. But who are YOU? Are you saying that you are an overweight person, who doesn’t care about their appearance and can’t take the time to put on something other than sweats? Who are you?
I think the truth is that you are a sexy dynamic woman who has not paid enough attention to herself lately. You’d rather blame genetics or your age for the increased weight. But really think about this. You got to where you are because one day you gave up. If you want your car to run smoothly you have to maintain it. Same thing with your body and your relationship.
We think men are supposed to act like the guys in soap operas but we fail to recognize that men would act that way if we acted like the women in the soap operas. If we surprised our husbands in little teddys with champagne and always looked drop dead gorgeous they would kiss us up against a wall and make us swoon on our feet all the time.
While it might sound like I am advocating that you do this to get your man interested in you again, I’m not. I am advocating that you take care of yourself for you. You matter and you should treat yourself with enough respect that you care enough to put on make-up and workout everyday.
I stopped caring about myself for a long time and my results showed it. I have been working to find that deep self love again and am finally entering a space in my life where I feel happy with myself. That happiness has to come from within before it shows on the outside. Your excess weight is a symptom of something deeper going on in your brain. Without unraveling that cord you will stay stuck.
If you need help starting to put your life back together or getting yourself healthy let me know. I know its hard. But without daily effort and caring enough about yourself to “put on some make-up” you’ll stay stuck and miserable. Time moves whether you want it to or not and all you’ll have are empty photo albums and a sense of loss that you did not take action sooner.
Christina Helwig
Put On Your Own Oxygen Mask First
November 3, 2009
I have what we’ll call a delicate family situation right now. For the last three plus years I have been jumping in and taking care of all their concerns without any regard to how my choices were going to stack up against me. I was so busy saving them, that I stopped caring about myself in the process. Now I have realized the error of my ways and I am pulling back my help.
You see… people need consequences so that they understand what their actions mean. If you constantly rush in and save a person they will never stand up for themselves. They will be dis-empowered and unable to care for themselves. My need to save them transitioned from a little sting to a massive tsunami in my life. You feel this constant guilt and social duty to help your family. Its incredibly difficult to step back and say no.
Its only because I have finally had my “consequences” hit me hard that I have started reaching for my oxygen mask. I have a big hurdle to jump over now to get myself back on track after I let this situation develop. I know that I am RESPONSIBLE for letting myself not take care of me first. You will never be happy if you live for others and not for yourself. You come first… period. Once you are taken care of… you can CHOOSE to help others. Let go of social stigma and feelings of guilt or they will run you into the ground.
A simple question to ask yourself is: if the situation was reversed… would there be anyone there to save me? If the answer is no, its time to blow back up your life raft and let them worry about theirs all by themselves.
Are You Scared Of What You Want To Manifest?
May 2, 2009
I’ve embarked on a path to drastically change my life and the lives of the people close to me. Now I am a few months away from really big things happening and I have to say … its a little scary. Mixed feelings of doubt, fear, excitement, happiness and a touch of sadness are circulating around me. At moments I feel all of them at once or one lingers for a bit.
I’ve been ecstatically happy and have broken down in tears several times. Every time the tears show up I am just on the cusp of a breakthrough. These moments I doubt my path, but I also do not quit. I grab my bootstraps and yank, hard. I dig and deepen my resolve.
These moments of fear are very common for everyone. The bigger the goal the deeper the fear. That’s just the way it is. Its in this critical time that most individuals quit. Change is unbelievably uncomfortable and nerve wracking. Sometimes its downright painful. The only thing that will propel you through these times is a very clear commitment to what you want and the persistence and faith that you will accomplish it.
I’m lucky to have a very strong set of people that believe in me and share my vision. Your environment matters so much in times of change. If you are surrounded with people who doubt you, their inadequacies and jealousy at your success will rub off on you and temper your dreams and resolve.
Next time the chaos sets in remember that its temporary and not a permanent fixture in your life. “Nothing splendid was ever achieve except by those that dared believe that something inside themselves was superior to circumstance.” Bruce Barton.
You are not your circumstances, your circumstances are not you. You can change anything in your life. You just have to do it one action or step at a time.
Christina Helwig
www.GlobalSuccessILG.com
What Does It Mean To Be Rich?
April 8, 2009
I used to think that being rich meant that you had millions of dollars, a fancy car, a big house and a myriad of other niceties in your life. Now however, I am not so sure. To me being rich means that you are debt free and you have more than enough to cover your needs and reasonable wants. It also means having the resources to help the people in your life you care about.
What this really comes down to is monthly cash flow. Are you on a whole taking in more than you spend and do you have reserves should an big emergency arise? If I answer this question for myself the answer is an emphatic no. With that I know I have some work to do. First I have to figure out what I need to live. Then I need to calculate what I would need to live the way I want to live.
My goal then becomes closing that gap. You see when you put up a goal of I want to be a “millionaire” you really are saying “I want to live like a millionaire.” What we often do not understand is that even some millionaires are deeply in debt and are themselves living paycheck to paycheck. If your wealth is not long lasting why bother. You want to maintain that lifestyle for the long-run, not for a few short intense years.
Additionally by focusing on the monthly gap you need to bridge, the goal seems much more reasonable to your brain. You can mentally process it and your subconscious mind will start to accept the goal as possible. Its when we think something is possible that things start to happen.
Your next step in this process is to sit down and brainstorm all the different ways you can bridge your gap. Really get creative. Its the simple changes and ideas that make the greatest impact. Then take action on the items you brainstormed. If one doesn’t work then try another until it sticks.
Without action you will stay in the same position you are currently in or be in a worse one, a year from now. This I can promise you. Nothing happens without action. Without it you are merely a dreamer. So get moving and make yourself rich, its only a tiny gap.
Christina Helwig
www.GlobalSuccessILG.com
The Victor
March 14, 2009
The Victor
If you think you are beaten, you are.
If you think you dare not, you don’t.
If you like to win but think you can’t,
It’s almost a cinch you won’t.
If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost.
For out in the world we find
Success begins with a fellow’s will.
It’s all in the state of mind.
If you think you are out classed, you are.
You’ve got to think high to rise.
You’ve got to be sure of your-self before
You can ever win the prize.
Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man.
But sooner or later, the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can.
by: C. W. Longenecker
Accepting Failure & Moving On
February 28, 2009
Last year I tried to start a business. It was one that I was very familiar with. I had worked in the field for over six years and I was a rockstar in it. I formed a collection agency business that focused on construction companies solely. That was going to be my niche. My brother had a tile business and had to close shop when a large customer refused to pay him. I thought the model was great. We ramped up and spent money to advertise. We invested countless hours in calling and working on the business. At night you could find me adding mailing labels to postcards etc.
By all appearances I thought the business would be great. I knew however in the back of my mind that there was a problem with my model. Collections is fundamentally a negative experience. I would be exposing myself and more importantly my employees to a negative interaction with another human being. If you have read my posts before you know that negativity is just not in my life sphere.
After about 6 months and countless dollars spent I pulled the plug and told the people involved that we needed to circle the wagons and regroup. They were upset and wanted to continue to chase something that was just not working. I told them that sometimes we have to let go of something to allow a better opportunity to come to us. About 5 months later a better one did and I am so happy. The business is based on helping people better themselves and realize their dreams. It is right in alignment with my purpose and is a hobby / business for me. It is not a chore. The model has a direct one to one pay ratio and is not dependent on getting unhappy people to pay debts they don’t want to pay in the first place.
I view the first business as a stepping stone and a pathway to something better. There are probably many things that you can look back on in your life that had the same characteristics. The more important thing for you to do right now is evaluate whether your current projects and plans are really working. Can they be redone? Or are you simply chasing the end of a rainbow out of pride? If its the later please stop, circle your wagons and keep your eyes and heart open for a better opportunity. It will come in time.
Christina Helwig
www.GlobalSuccessILG.com
Are You Willing To Pay “The Price”
February 23, 2009
Often we set our hearts on a goal or something we would like to have in our lives and we consistently fail to realize it. For some inexplicable reason we stumble and the dream never materializes. We look back and blame external circumstances or people and events. For a select few they also look within and see that their own habits, thoughts and actions played a role in not achieving what they wanted.
There is a very fundamental question you should be asking yourself in these circumstances. Was I willing to pay the price? Paying the price of having your goal involves more than merely going through the motions. It requires a deep unyielding commitment to achieve your goal no matter what it costs you in terms of money, time, habit changes, thought pattern changes and release of unserving beliefs and activities. It’s that extra push of energy that a champion exerts to win a race or the last steps of a grueling walk to freedom.
There is also something very special about “the price.” The price is personal its not based on what others have done to achieve what you want. The price is solely determinate on what you have to do to achieve your goal and nothing else. Your price might be more or less than what is required of another individual.
You lose ground when you start making comparisons. Another person’s actions and thoughts can serve as a guidepost but they should never be set up as the standard for what is necessary to achieve YOUR goals. Your price is personal and should always be treated as such. Stop feeling sorry for yourself when you have to work harder to achieve something. There are a great deal of things you do with minimal effort that others struggle through.
Remember this and rexamine your recent setbacks to see if you were really paying YOUR price.
Christina Helwig
www.GlobalSuccessILG.com
What is Character?
February 11, 2009
Hyram Smith defines character as “The ability to carry out a worthy decision after the emotion of making that decision has passed.” This is what I like to call living in integrity with your goals. It is at its core doing what you say you are going to to when you say you are going to do it.
I have realized something about myself over the last few weeks. I have simply taken on way too much. I have a bunch of different projects competing for my time and I have spread myself a little thin. Did I cause this to happen, absolutely. Can I fix it? Yes, but I have made promises in the process and I have to honor those commitments. Regardless of how much I have going on at any one time I know that other people are counting on me to follow through with projects and tasks I agreed to complete. So even though I am very busy and a little tired I will stay up and finish what I started.
This leads into another thing that Hyram Smith said in his video on ILG: “If you develop a reputation for doing what you say you are going to do in the corporate world you can write your own ticket, because people know when you say something is going to happen it happens.” All businesses, bosses, spouses and even your friends are looking for one thing: dependability. When they need you and it matters can you deliver and can you stay true to your promises. Dust off those lingering promises and fulfill them. Trust me it will make you feel better [even if you are a little tired].
Christina Helwig
To learn more about Hyram Smith visit www.GlobalSuccessILG.com
Are You Providing Real Value?
January 23, 2009
“The Law of Value. Your true worth is determined by how much more you give in value than you take in payment.” ~ The Go-Giver.
Ask yourself today what are you doing to provide more value to the people around you? How are you improving the lives of your family, friends, co-workers and customers? Without providing value we stagnant our growth. We can fall into the trap of thinking that we will “never make it” or that we cannot do that which we most deeply desire.
To really live on purpose you should be providing value to as many people as possible. But remember that it is about quality, not quantity. For some time your business will only be able to provide the highest quality service to a few people. As you grow that will expand and then so will your economic power and reach.
Take a few moments today to think about how you can improve the level of service you offer to the people around you. Often a simple change in behavior brings huge results.
This is the very first law discussed in the book “The Go-Giver.” Again this book is a critical component of your library.
Please post how you will provide more value to cement your commitment inside your mind. Once you put something in writing it is 100% more effective at creating a change in your life.
To your success,
Christina
P.s. If you have not done so already you can join me in my Facebook group “Living on Purpose with Christina” for great discussion topics, homework assignments and questions to really make you think.
Are You Wishing Or Believing?
January 13, 2009
There are a couple of points in “Think and Grow Rich” that Bob Proctor said changed his life. Napoleon Hill wrote in his Chapter on Desire: “There is a difference between wishing for a thing and being ready to receive it.” “No one is ready for a thing until they believe they can acquire it.”
How many times do we ponder our goals and think “wouldn’t that be nice.” We sit and daydream and for some reason nothing seems to happen. The goal sits and gathers dust and we eventually move on to other goals or feel bad because we have not achieved what we set out to do.
Let me ask you this, do you actually believe that you will accomplish your goals? If you say “I will be a millionaire,” do you actually believe it? Can you see yourself living as a millionaire, doing the things that a millionaire does? Or do you have some vague, misty concept of what that life is like and merely think about having the million dollars only if you were to win the lottery?
This is not enough. You can’t just dream. Your dreams have to turn into a reality in your mind. When you think about your goal it needs to be like a movie in your head. Almost like you are replaying a memory, smell the smells, feel the breeze and all other senses you can engage. Pretend that you are stepping into a virtual reality machine and really “live” in that mental movie.
This is the only way to switch from wishing to being ready to receive a goal. Bob Proctor realized that he had been wishing for things as a boy but he never really believed he could receive them. He could not see himself with the new bike or winning a baseball game. Bob realized that he was not ready for the good that he desired. He was not ready for what he really wanted. He was wishing but he wasn’t ready.
I recently went out and toured multi-million dollar homes. I had no concept of what living in one of these homes would be like. In fact I had never even been inside one. How could I imagine living in that type of a house without ever walking through one? One of the best things you can do for yourself is go take tours of homes, sit in nice cars and go out to fancy restaurants. This will give your mind some mental muscle to help you “live” in your mental movie. Take action and go out and do some of these exercises this weekend. You will be so happy you did.
To view videos from Bob Proctor and other great personal development teachers visit: www.GlobalSuccessILG.com
Christina Helwig